everything happened by reason(s)

I met an old friend today, used to be one of my close friends years ago. She knew me when I had difficult character. And today we talk about that, the reason why I had such character, which she thinks it’s almost similar to her husband.

Though I’m not a shrink, but I have realized that in psychology is all about cause and consequence theory. We don’t get our character genetically, we gain it while we grow. How a person can be so lame or so hard, easy or difficult; it all happened by reason(s). And the main influence is from home, family at the first place, then friends or social life. Realizing or not, we must have affected our closest relative’s personality whom we meet everyday. And so do them to us. But the main affecting time is when we are still a kid until we are considered psychologically adult.

Since my job is being a doctor, all I know is that we only able to cure thing if we can find out what has caused it. And I also put that theory in psychology. There are causes why I’m being my self. My surrounding has built my character, and I allow it to be, so that’s how I become me. And do I satisfy with my own character? NO! So many reasons that make me hate my self. But no body is perfect in psychology; everyone has his/her own issues. And I have figured out what has caused mine, but still I can’t cure it. Coz again, I’m not a shrink. And even a shrink must have psychology issue!

But one thing for sure, I might not be able to cure my bad characters, but since I know what has made it I hope I wont heritage it to my offspring one day. Still need to learn a lot. And I think that’s what life is for, learn and work hard to be a better person….. or better offspring!